If you are still in love with your ex, it’s never too late to get back together. And it doesn’t have to be hard either. There are many ways that you can rekindle the flame and reignite your relationship with your former partner—regardless of how long ago the breakup was or what caused it in the first place. All it takes is a little effort on both parts, some time, and an understanding that there are no guarantees when it comes to relationships. But if you want one badly enough, then there’s always hope! Here are steps that will help put things right again:
Be Realistic
One of the biggest mistakes that people make when trying to get back with an ex is to have unrealistic expectations. They’re still in love with their partner, but they expect them to be a different person—the one they were before the relationship started going south. It stops being about the two of you and becomes all about your ex’s shortcomings or your former partner’s inability or unwillingness to change for you.
Reality check: While some people are able to transform themselves for their partners, this doesn’t happen all that often in real life. If you want your ex back, then it means accepting them just the way they are—flaws and all.
Back Off, Way Off!
The next step in getting back together with your ex is to give yourself some time and space—a lot of it. If the two of you were dating for any length of time, then chances are that person is used to having you around all the time. And while they might still have feelings for you, they also miss the single life. One way to get your ex-girlfriend interested in you again is by playing hard to get—at least for a little while. This doesn’t mean that you should disappear completely or act like you don’t care. It just means taking things down a notch so that their feelings for you intensify over time.
In the meantime, don’t talk about your ex to friends and family members—or on social media for that matter! Let people think that you have moved on with your life and are enjoying being single. You can even date other people if it makes you feel more comfortable. But never let on that you have a thing for your ex.
Reassure Your Ex That You Have Changed
No matter what happened between you and your ex, chances are that they will have doubts about getting back together. No matter how many times they ask you to change, the answer is always “no” or “I can’t.” This could be why they broke up with you in the first place, and it’s something that you have to address before things can go any further.
The best way to accomplish this is by using a time machine. Nope, not a real one! Just imagine what you would have done in your past relationship that was hurting your partner and resolve not to do it again. Tell them that you’re going to be different from now on—and make sure they believe you! Otherwise, nothing will ever change.
Reach Out to Your Ex to Talk About the Relationship
Once you’re sure that you can be trusted—and that your ex is definitely interested in getting back together with you—then it’s time to reach out. Do not contact them after a big fight unless there was something extremely pressing that needed to be said. Otherwise, call or send an email message letting them know how much you enjoyed spending time with them. Or, invite them to a date night out which you can both enjoy as friends since this is where the relationship currently stands.
Once your ex realizes that they no longer have anything to worry about, then things can go back to how they were before—or even better! For some couples, this means going on cute dates where you can enjoy each other’s company without feeling the pressure. For others, it simply means going back to the way things were before—spending time together and talking about your future as a couple.
Be Patient
It takes time to get back with an ex, and if you’re looking for a quick fix, then this probably isn’t the way to go. If your partner wants to be with you again it will happen eventually—so just relax and take things one day at a time. Don’t put pressure on yourself or your ex by making the process a big deal. The best way to win your partner back is to make them realize that you’re not going anywhere and that together, the two of you can start anew!
We hope that you have found this article helpful. If you are looking for a quick fix to win your ex back, then it is important to understand that getting back together with an ex can take time and patience. The key is not pressuring yourself or the other person by making the process too big of a deal. You should also be sure to reassure them about their doubts before trying to start over again as friends first if necessary.
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