4 Easy Tips to Up The Romance Factor in Your Relationship

In the beginning, most relationships feel like magic. Every kind gesture or simple surprise feels thrilling. Scientifically speaking, this has a lot to do with the rush of norepinephrine and dopamine that are being released and creating a feeling of euphoria. It also makes sense that when we first start down the path of a romantic partnership, everything feels novel, as you’re still discovering more about your significant other and what makes them tick.

Then, gradually over time, reality sets in and this enchanting creature seems, well, normal. Alas, your relationship becomes less exciting and more comfortable. You settle into everyday life with your partner and maybe a bit of boredom settles in, too. But we have got good news: Just because your relationship seems a bit more predictable doesn’t mean you can’t work to add some of that excitement back in.

Here are four easy ways to revive the romance in your relationship.

1. Try a Simple, Sweet Gesture

When you first started dating, you likely went all out for every birthday, holiday and anniversary. For Valentine’s Day, maybe you created a Mission Impossible-themed treasure hunt or something just as epic. But now that the honeymoon phase of the relationship has worn off, maybe you’ve taken things down a notch.

Let’s change that. We're not saying you have to plan a big bash, but a simple gesture like picking up their favorite coffee over the weekend before they wake up or writing a sweet love note can elicit the same warm feelings.

2. Create a Space to Express What You Want

When you first got together, your aspirations in life matched up swimmingly. But lately, you're feeling not as in-tune with one another’s wants and needs. A great way to get back on the same page is to have an open and honest discussion in which each partner is free to express their desires without feeling judged.

When done the right way, having such an open dialogue between you and your lover can add a sexy element to a lasting relationship. Maybe your partner will say something you weren’t expecting. Even if you're not totally on board with everything they’re asking for, aim to meet somewhere in the middle, with each partner agreeing to only what they are comfortable trying.

3. Date Your Partner

Establishing a regular date night is key to maintaining the spark in committed relationships. For an added benefit, mix time out together with "couple" friends. Not only does this give you time to reconnect with your significant other, but it also allows you to see your partner in a light, all while spend quality time with friends.

These types of social outings can help you remember why you fell in love in the first place. Maybe your sweetie is a brilliant storyteller or puts people at ease with just a smile. Relearning your partner’s unique traits can certainly up the flame factor in your relationship.

4. Get Away From the Routine

We all get stuck in the daily grind, but one way to get out of a rut is to take a break from your normal routine. Perhaps instead of your partner going to the grocery store for weekly food shopping, you step in and do it. Or, maybe you order some new lingerie for your partner to bring some extra fun back into your bedroom encounters. You might just be surprised at how a little break from tradition works to ignite some serious passion back into your love life.

Keep Things Fresh and Fun

If your relationship has stalled, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s over. It might just need a little tender love and care. Try a few of the tips above to cultivate lasting intimacy while still keeping your relationship fresh and fun.